The narcissist cares only for one thing: themself. To the narcissist, it's all about how they can gain from us whatever it is that they've determined that we can provide while investing as little as possible in return. We're not coequal persons cooperating with them in building a friendship based on mutual trust and respect; rather, a narcissist sees us only as objects to be used in achieving their goals, filling whatever needs—emotional, material or otherwise—they may want from us based on the roles in which they have cast us.